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Attitudes That Will Kill A Marriage There are many dangers and threats to marriage today but the biggest threat to our own marriages come from our attitudes: |
Attitudes That Will Kill A Marriage
There are many dangers and threats to marriage today but the biggest threat to our own marriages come from our attitudes:
- Gladware Attitude– marriage is disposable
- Fails to accept God’s authority and wisdom concerning marriage (Col. 3:17; Jer. 10:23).
- Understand God’s design for the marriage has not changed from the beginning (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:5; Eph. 5:31), it is still to be held in honor (Matt 19:4-6; Rom. 7:3-4; Mal. 2:16) .
- Mirror Attitude– considers only yourself
- Displays selfishness and fails to follow God’s plan in becoming one flesh (Eph. 5:31, 33)
- As Christians we are often reminded not to think only of ourselves and this is certainly true in our marriage (cf. 1 Cor. 12:12-27; Phil. 2:2-5; 1 Pet. 1:22).
- Grazing Attitude– the grass is greener on the other side
- Fails to honor our commitment to our spouse and places us at greater risk of adultery (Matt. 5:27-28; Rom. 7:2-3).
- Our commitment to Christ is a daily, life-long commitment (Lk. 9:23, 62) and Paul parallels this with marriage (Eph. 5:22ff); I would say the only commitment stronger than this is our commitment to God (Matt. 6:33; 1 Cor. 7:10-11, 15)
- Revolving Door Attitude– you just fall in and out of love
- We fail to honor the role God set out for us and we accepted.
- A spark may have left the marriage but it may be because one or both stopped being the spouse God instructed (Eph. 5:22ff).
All of these attitudes reflect a failure on our part to cleave unto our spouse as God commanded…how’s the glue in your marriage?
